After that experience I asked other friends if they felt “questioned” by me and if it was uncomfortable. And I heard a resounding yes. You see I have an uncanny ability to surmise the intricacies of a person or situation and get right to the heart of the matter. I guess I am kind of like that nagging voice in your subconscious when you are trying to make a decision but are not ready to deal with the outcome.
This talent of mine would have served me well had I decided to become an attorney as I originally planned. However life is not a court and my friends are not witnesses on the stand. Having this insight enabled me to change my modus operandi. Now if someone has a problem to discuss I am sounding board and a listening ear. I ask no probing questions or offer advice. Unless of course it is requested.
This new way of dealing with others was difficult at first but became easier as time progressed. Instead of asking the questions, I simply listen. In this way I can ascertain where a person stands on the matter. I occasionally ask questions in a very non-intrusive way for clarity. I think I have taken the same approach to blogging. I am testing the waters to see the receptivity to the things I put out there.
I mention all of this because recently my friend fly tie called my blog “warm and fuzzy” and that is complimentary. But it gave me pause because I know that life is not always “warm and fuzzy.” Like you I deal with issues on a daily basis, nirvana has not been achieved in the Cutie Booty household. And perhaps that is a part of it – the name of my blog denotes “warm and fuzzy.”
I just want to have a moment of candor. In homage to Langston Hughes," life ain’t been no crystal stair." Warm and fuzzy is nice but reality can be gritty and rough at times. This mommy is imperfect, questions her parenting ability and wonders about the future. As a writer I want my voice to be heard and remain true to myself. So please know when you visit many days you will find “warm and fuzzy” but on others not so much. Parenting, marriage and life has rough patches and I plan on chronicling it all.
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