Bebe's Kids
You may or may not be familiar with the deceased stand-up comedian Robin Harris but he was a funny man. His most well known sketch was about Bebe's kids. A woman that he dated was sitting for a friend "Bebe" and had to bring the kids along. Bebe's kids were terrible and while I can't do them justice whenever you refer to Bebe's kids in the black community everyone knows the type of children and the associated behavior that you are referring to.
Well, yesterday I met one of Bebe's kids. And please don't get it twisted, I apply this term to any child regardless of ethnicity that is acting like they have no home training. I took Mekhi to the orthopedic doctor to have his feet examed. He is pigeon - toed and I have been concerned about it for some time. While filling out the requisite forms Mehki saw another child (Bebe's Kid) with a toy and went to explore the playroom. Bebe's kid subsequently ran over Mekhi with a riding toy. This little girl had to be at least 5 and should have known better. I promptly corrected her and asked that she say excuse me, which she did.
But the behavior continued. Any toy that Mekhi picked up she tried to snatch. I wanted to take him out of the playroom but that would have led to a meltdown so I had to monitor the situation while filling out paperwork. To add insult to injury, Bebe was nowhere to be found. A friend "tried" to get Bebe's kid to behave but just gave up and walked away. Leaving Bebe's Kid to terrorize my child.
Luckily I had to change Mehkhi's diaper so we left the room and immediately after the diaper change we were called into our room.
Oh, and I forgot to mention Bebe's kid had a half -leg cast on and was still a super terror. So in honor of Bebe's kid and with hope that Bebe learns better parenting skills here is a clip from the show Bebe's Kids. This song Straight Jackin' is appropriate because this Bebe's Kid was straight jackin' Mekhi (translation: taking toys from Mekhi).
What do you do when you encounter a Bebe's kid and Bebe is nowhere to be found? Do you correct him/her or just remove your child from the situation?
Well, yesterday I met one of Bebe's kids. And please don't get it twisted, I apply this term to any child regardless of ethnicity that is acting like they have no home training. I took Mekhi to the orthopedic doctor to have his feet examed. He is pigeon - toed and I have been concerned about it for some time. While filling out the requisite forms Mehki saw another child (Bebe's Kid) with a toy and went to explore the playroom. Bebe's kid subsequently ran over Mekhi with a riding toy. This little girl had to be at least 5 and should have known better. I promptly corrected her and asked that she say excuse me, which she did.
But the behavior continued. Any toy that Mekhi picked up she tried to snatch. I wanted to take him out of the playroom but that would have led to a meltdown so I had to monitor the situation while filling out paperwork. To add insult to injury, Bebe was nowhere to be found. A friend "tried" to get Bebe's kid to behave but just gave up and walked away. Leaving Bebe's Kid to terrorize my child.
Luckily I had to change Mehkhi's diaper so we left the room and immediately after the diaper change we were called into our room.
Oh, and I forgot to mention Bebe's kid had a half -leg cast on and was still a super terror. So in honor of Bebe's kid and with hope that Bebe learns better parenting skills here is a clip from the show Bebe's Kids. This song Straight Jackin' is appropriate because this Bebe's Kid was straight jackin' Mekhi (translation: taking toys from Mekhi).
What do you do when you encounter a Bebe's kid and Bebe is nowhere to be found? Do you correct him/her or just remove your child from the situation?
Comments
I've done both. I am not above gently correcting another's child.
I've said "Oh no sweetheart, that's not how we would act. Would you want someone to do that to do?" before and I've whisked him away telling him the same. He usually came back with "Where was that mommy!!??"
I think it's true. It takes a village to raise a child. Just because WE don't accept a certain behavior, a child needs to know that the general society doesn't either.
The other day at soccer practice another boy was sitting on Big pup's soccer ball. I was so glad when Big pup spoke up and told the kid that it was his ball. It was really hard for me not to go over and kick that ball out from under that kid!
I find myself doing both though. It depends on how crazy the situation is. Sometimes I snap right away, sometimes it takes a minute for me to really get annoyed with what Bebe's kid happens to be doing to my kid.
I damn near lost it at the park on one of Bebe's kids one time when she pour a bag of melted ice cream all over Miss J., and then the little heffa busted out laughing about it! At that point, we had to leave because it was about to be me and her!
I don't blame you for doing what you did because you were looking out for your own child. That is the number one thing I cannot stand and that's kids running around proving they don't have any home training. I don't even call it acting because chances are they act the same way at home as they do in public.
you REALLY need to get it together. immediately.
LOL.
Having been a nanny, I'm not opposed to stepping in when kids are misbehaving, but if their parent is right there and not doing anything, I usually take it as a lost cause and leave if that's an option.
well, i have no child to be terrorized by bebe's child, however i see them all the time out in public actin' a fool. and it's true, the parent is usually nowhere around or somehow oblivious to what's going on.
come to think of it, though, i have been in situations where i was looking after someone's child and there way a bebe's child raising hell, bullying, etc and the caregiver was M.I.A. i kindly and politely showed 'em how to play together and share, and all was well.